He Smoke She Don't
He is a single man with no kids. She is a wife with four kids. He smoke She don't. Do they see life through the same glasses? Take a listen and find out
He Smoke She Don't
Birthdays, Bonding, and Baby Bliss
Ever wondered why birthdays seem to get more fun as we age, or if the saying "Black don't crack" holds any truth? Find out as we kick off this episode with some hilarious birthday stories and the quirks that come with getting older. From mistaken age mishaps to the perils of artificial tanning, we serve up laughs while reminiscing about memorable birthday bashes. Plus, we take a breath of fresh air recounting our latest adventures in nature, proving that outdoor fun never gets old.
Have you ever felt lost in the maze of modern relationships, unsure where genuine connections are hiding? Join us as we break down the essence of meaningful relationships, from thoughtful gestures to realistic expectations. We dive into the art of gift-giving, the pressures amplified by social media, and the importance of truly listening to your partner. Expect candid conversations about the disconnect between desires and realities in relationships, peppered with personal anecdotes and practical advice for forging deeper connections.
What happens when kids enter the picture, and how do societal expectations shape our parenting experiences? We share our personal journeys of balancing family life with personal ambitions, busting common myths about parenting along the way. From humorous work anecdotes to the challenges and joys of raising children, we emphasize that life evolves beautifully with kids. Wrapping up, we advocate for a more respectful attitude towards body image and self-expression, challenging societal norms and promoting a healthier perspective for all. Tune in for a heartfelt, humorous, and insightful discussion that spans from birthdays to the beautiful chaos of parenting.
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Speaker 2:We're on the back of the street.
Speaker 1:You can't tell me that that was not. We are back in your face with episode six of it's Not Seven. You're not about to confuse me this week, because I know it for a fact. Nah, and actually I'm proud of us for real For coming back. I mean, yeah, For keeping up with it for real, for real.
Speaker 2:For coming back. Yeah, for giving up on it.
Speaker 1:For real for real.
Speaker 2:We were having some parties and stuff and people couldn't wake up. We've been asleep for the past couple weeks.
Speaker 1:Hey y'all, we got something upcoming though.
Speaker 2:Huh, her birthday.
Speaker 1:No, so make sure y'all tap in on the 23rd to wish her the happiest of happiest of happiest. I think this episode comes out the week of your birthday.
Speaker 2:No, yep, no Yep.
Speaker 1:Nope, yep, it does.
Speaker 2:It does, and I'll be three years old, oh.
Speaker 1:Three plus or three Dang, it's three-four. Huh, hey, you don't want them to know for real, I don't care.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, you don't look it, I don't.
Speaker 1:I look like a five-year-old.
Speaker 2:No I would put like 28 on you. I do think I look like. I think I look 30. No, I wouldn't give you that. I'm really close to 35. I think I look about 30. I think people should stop saying that they look younger than what they look, because they'd be embarrassing themselves.
Speaker 1:Don't yeah, let somebody say it for you, yeah.
Speaker 2:Man, I was watching this TikTok the other day and this girl said I don't know she made a. Tiktok and somebody said something to her about being 45. She was 22. And I'm like you've got to be joking.
Speaker 1:Was it like the way she was dressing?
Speaker 2:No, I didn't think she looked 45. I'm thinking more like 35.
Speaker 1:But you 22. That's I don't know what to do with that one, that's terrible Black.
Speaker 2:Don't crack it, don't, it don't. That's really what it comes down to.
Speaker 1:When people find out my age, they'll be like thank you, because I will happily take it.
Speaker 2:And what's crazy is, yes, it's melanin that keeps us looking so youthful, mm-hmm, but the artificial melanin that Caucasians be trying to put in them ages you so fast.
Speaker 1:Yeah it makes you go what?
Speaker 2:Like it's terrible.
Speaker 1:And all the ways they're trying to do it, like natural sun, the tanning beds, the spray tan, like all that Granny mad she heard us.
Speaker 2:She was not having it.
Speaker 1:Not my grandbaby, no, but early happy birthday to you. Thanks, yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure.
Speaker 2:Happy belated to you.
Speaker 1:Thank you, your party was hey Lily, I wish you could was hey Litty, I missed half of it.
Speaker 2:How I host it and and missed it.
Speaker 1:It still don't come. No, but it was a blast it was. I was telling somebody definitely top five birthdays for sure my top birthday. You did not make it to, and I'm thinking I want to just do that again and hey, if it was lit, it was the best that you did not make it to. And I'm thinking I want to just do that again. Hey, if it was lit, it was the best party anybody has ever been to.
Speaker 2:They ain't going to tell you that, but they oh, like period in life Anybody has ever been to.
Speaker 1:I don't know, because mine this past time was pretty. Yeah, we was out here, we was out here.
Speaker 2:I think parties get better as you get older. I think so too, although my 17th at Chuck E Cheese was top tier.
Speaker 1:I was just thinking like I had some lit TV parties but I think you just lose inhibition more, but like, even if everything don't go to plan, you're like I'm still gonna have a good time, although cause that was my 30th, my best birthday. My best birthday was my 30th too All up until people got there.
Speaker 2:I'm like, what if people don't come? Are we still going to have fun? Although I've never thrown a party and people not come, so I don't even know why I was thinking that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's birthday season around.
Speaker 2:Yeah, our part yeah. It seems like it's a birthday every week for the past month at least so the end of June and most of July. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:But so today we're going to be doing things a little little little little little little little little little little little bit different. Today we're going to be doing things a little bit different. She don't know nothing we're talking about today.
Speaker 2:Nothing Hints to no laptop.
Speaker 1:No top of the laptop. She ain't got nothing today, so she's just going to be hit with these like bow. What you think we're going to catch her completely off guard, don't shoot me like that. Damn, damn, damn.
Speaker 2:When I tell you this is the dumbest man that I have ever met in my entire life why is? That ever your response, that was perfect. I was like damn, I know, I saw it too. I was like damn, they got me.
Speaker 1:Because it's like they already got you. What else you going to do, Damn.
Speaker 2:Stay from outside, like I told you.
Speaker 1:Yes and no Jesus Christ. I feel it. I feel it, but I can't, because I just love it. Love the outside. Look, I am a nature person, are you? Yeah, I love being outside.
Speaker 2:I've been taking a lot of walks. Like Tuesday I went on a hike, mm-hmm on a hike, and for like five hours yeah you can get lost.
Speaker 1:I remind myself often that I got to look up more. It's just like when you're in nature you see trees, you see birds, you see different animals and stuff.
Speaker 2:It was the craziest thing, five hours, I don't even do nothing for five hours.
Speaker 1:How did I keep myself occupied?
Speaker 2:for five hours. I wasn't listening to no music or nothing, I was just my feet was hurting.
Speaker 1:That won't even stop you.
Speaker 2:That definitely won't even stop you.
Speaker 1:I don't even know where that came from. Hey, what's the Ric Flair Nature Boy? That's how I be feeling when I'm in, like I take who, rick flair? I think that's what they call them nature boy. Okay the wrestler. You know I gotta double check on that. You lost me but that's how I be feeling when I'm in. I'll take my shoes off, I'll take my shirt off, like I'll just allergies was going crazy.
Speaker 2:still just out, still just out there.
Speaker 1:Speaking of nature and green before we get into these topics today.
Speaker 2:This don't smell that bad. I can't really smell it.
Speaker 1:It don't have the strongest odor to it.
Speaker 2:Maybe that's what it is, it's just not strong.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and wind blowing, so maybe it's just not blowing your way. But today, for the strain of the day, we got Blue OG. I got my notes over here to make sure, but this is one of those Blue OG. This is Blue OG.
Speaker 2:OG in Italian is today oh, okay.
Speaker 1:OG I learned something OG. So yeah, Blue, OG this is one of them. Indica heavy hybrids.
Speaker 2:It's a hybrid. Indica is unfortunately calming. Yeah, you remember the OG and now you'll never forget it and remind us they in the couch.
Speaker 1:See, you don't know, it should have been energy no, but yeah, this is one of those indica dominant uh hybrids, but it still has those uppity effects to it. But you're gonna be sleepy afterwards so I might be dozing off a little bit. It's like I ain't gonna doze off but to make you super, super hungry. The munchies be going crazy and I've been trying to gain weight lately, so this might be a go-to strain for me. For what? I want to put on 30 pounds For what? For my next row? Yeah, see, you don't even know what's going on. I'm out here signing deals, making meals.
Speaker 1:Not signing deals and you don't even know what's going on. But yeah, for my next role I got to put on some weight, so I'm trying to put on 30 pounds.
Speaker 2:You can't do it, and this is going to help me get to it so. I don't know why that made me think about 50 Cent when he lost all that weight for a role he lost. Then it took my mind to Trump, apparently, apparently there was a a something last night. No, the shooting happened, oh yeah but there was something last night but he came out to 50 cent this is.
Speaker 1:I mean, I'm a part of the world too, so I so I'm laughing along with the memes and shit, but I'm like we're really just laughing at almost assassination.
Speaker 2:I'm actually mad at the person who shot him, not because they shot him, because you shot his ear, and I know that that's terrible. For me to be wishing that they had hit somewhere else, yeah, but I needed my man. No, not death. I needed my mans. To be wishing that they had hit somewhere else, but I needed my man. No, not that I needed my mans to be down, no, he got up with the fist pump at every thing. I can't you going to prison?
Speaker 1:for shooting his ear, and that's what I'm saying. You only made him bigger. That's what I'm upset about, and I hate to see it.
Speaker 2:I'm like If he wins this election because he got shot, I'm going to be beyond, beyond beyond livid.
Speaker 1:I get it. But back to this. This is a mix of Blueberry F3, Blue Moonshine and OG Kush.
Speaker 2:Okay, all I know is that Moonshine is the weed version of Moonshine.
Speaker 1:No Moon Rock. Oh, that's Moon Rock. Yeah, this is all the ones that's mixed in.
Speaker 2:I don't know what none of that is. I thought I had one.
Speaker 1:Nope, but you're going to learn. You're going to keep learning. We're going to keep doing this, you're going to learn.
Speaker 2:You're going to keep learning. We're going to keep doing this. You're going to get better at it. That'll be a good shirt I thought I had one and on the back a list of weeds.
Speaker 1:I like that. I like that we're going to have so much merch. It's going to go crazy. People are going to start asking for it. I was going to say so. Your boy about to be blowing on that, wow.
Speaker 2:Blue today.
Speaker 1:We like your braces. You just got them switched. You got a new smile on you, new haircut, new braces. You ain't even let the people see it New nails oh, those are cute, I like that. How are?
Speaker 2:nails done yesterday morning. I like that. I like them Skipped work to go get my nails done. I can't stand it, hey. Sometimes how do you skip work? Sometimes you got to do what you got to do.
Speaker 1:Me and you are actually going to fight. I'm going to talk to you about it off camera. Why? What idea but me and you are actually going to fight.
Speaker 2:Why? Because I skipped work.
Speaker 1:Moving on. So this is an episode where we just roulette-ing at her. She don't know what's about to land, she don't know what we about to talk about, but we just gonna hit them with her and see what she thinks. So you want to start with hard-hitting topics first, or just like the national line ones first? Hard-hitting topics first, or just like the national out ones first?
Speaker 2:Hard-hitting for 200, Alex.
Speaker 1:All right, hard-hitting for 200.
Speaker 2:It's probably not even that hard.
Speaker 1:Okay, I think it is, and the reason I came up with this is because, once again, me being a single man out here, I have candidates, I have options, and when the options be coming, I'll just be like, or even like. That's all you bringing, especially when I'm beginning to know them. So I would like to know what are some ways to keep a man that have absolutely nothing to do with sex, because I've been running into women. They don't cook Conversation, they don't clean, but what type of conversation Am I just listening to you gossip about your girls.
Speaker 2:No, that's not conversation, that's gossip.
Speaker 1:Some women think that is conversation.
Speaker 2:Those ain't women.
Speaker 1:I mean by definition they are.
Speaker 2:No, they're females.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, those aren't women. I can give you that. I can give you that.
Speaker 2:Conversation is a big one, showing interest.
Speaker 1:Nah, that's too vague. Showing interest is way too vague.
Speaker 2:No, because if you tell me you like baseball and then I plan a date for us to go to the batting cages or I buy you something to do with baseball for your birthday, that's showing a lot of interest Okay.
Speaker 1:But that's more specific. But I like that Like. If you just like, oh, what game is on tonight, that ain't really showing no interest.
Speaker 2:Or if we, if we're having a conversation, and you tell me man, I need a new belt or I need a haircut, yeah, or I need to do something with my hair, or I like these hair products, and then I put a care package together for you. That's showing interest.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, I like that and that actually does sound great.
Speaker 2:And I'm not saying that there's not women out there that don't do it, but I guess I ain't ran into them, I feel like, because I've never even gotten.
Speaker 1:Great, I'm lying, I'm lying, I am a great gift giver.
Speaker 2:I've gotten. I have not ever gotten a good gift from anyone.
Speaker 1:I've gotten good gifts for us, like if I'm with somebody and it's my birthday or something, and they give me, oh okay, it's fun and great for us, for us, yeah. So I'm not saying it's not a great gift, but I rarely have somebody doing that Like they really pay attention to me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, paying attention is a great way to keep them in.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, I'd say that might be number one If he's a foodie.
Speaker 2:Setting up like food tasting Okay, Like hiring a chef to cook a bunch of different foods from different countries and stuff you would be a pretty good partner. I would be a great boyfriend. I say this all the time because this is stuff that I feel like this is stuff that men should do, but it wouldn't be a problem coming from a woman, but I just do feel like they're very manly.
Speaker 1:The more that we talk. Maybe it could be because we come from the same background. But no, for real hearing that, I don't get that a lot, but I give it a lot.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like because you've even always said that, yeah, I do feel like if you weren't my brother, I would 100% be like why he don't want me, why he didn't ask me to prom.
Speaker 1:But that's what I mean and I don't be getting that in return. Like I was really saying, listen to you and then cater the gift to stuff that you said and I've never received that and then, once again, being in game and just seeing a girl's effort or interest in me, I'll be like y'all really think you can just spread your legs and not to say that once again, like I was, saying the other week.
Speaker 1:Men y'all really think you can just spread your legs and that well, yeah, no, I not to say that once again. Like I was saying the other week, men y'all need to just stop throwing roses at their feet when that's all that they do.
Speaker 2:I mean, I think that that's all they care about, if that's what they're doing. Unfortunately, for some men, sex is if you can satisfy some men sexually, that is all they care about.
Speaker 1:I'll, that is wild but it is what it is, and I really don't believe that, because those like we was talking about the men's mental health, like a lot of the stuff that you wish you could get off your chest you can't even talk to this woman about because all you wanted was so. I don't believe that.
Speaker 2:I do not believe that I do believe it because I just seen a TikTok TikTok. I don't know what you dropped in your app, but you are addicting, bro.
Speaker 1:Okay, this girl was saying that she was like.
Speaker 2:It blows my mind that there are men out here complaining about gold diggers when that's not even their problem, and for a minute it took like for a minute.
Speaker 1:I was like what does she mean? Okay, she might be spitting some facts.
Speaker 2:But her point was because she said it's like me complaining about living in the or it's like me living in a desert and complaining or fearing that I'm going to drown. That's not in my reality. That's not in the realm of my reality. So that's not even a complaint for me to be making. Yeah, I feel that and. I feel like the problem is that women are going to men that they know don't have what they're looking for, still asking for what they want. Ooh, like you, ooh you might Like you.
Speaker 1:Ooh, oh, you might have just said something.
Speaker 2:Okay, no, that hit hard, because I just that hit hard, like when you ask if, ooh, if, uh, If I feel like I date down. But it's dumb for me to complain about dating down when I'm going to these men that I know don't have what I'm wanting and still expecting them to give me what.
Speaker 1:I want and I was laughing, but I really sat with that one comment where you was like I would spend a block on him if he had money.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for sure, I really sat with that comment. And I didn't think I was like that, I didn't think that I cared that much about money.
Speaker 1:But my life has showed me but I also wouldn't call you a gold digger.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not a gold digger.
Speaker 1:But that's why I sat with her. I was like that's a valid thing for women, right. But like she's saying most and you not.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's not even an issue for you.
Speaker 1:But I agree, I think it's on both ends. Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:Women are definitely going to men and expecting things from. That's like going up to a homeless man and asking him to buy you a house. Excuse me, excuse me. He's homeless. You said something there.
Speaker 1:What are you getting out of that?
Speaker 2:So I think it's a big problem, like you said, on both parts, because there are men who are accepting just sex and there are women who are begging for something that they know they're never going to receive. It's almost like you like the drama of him not giving that to you. Yeah, oh, okay, all right, all right, not hard hitting. Oh okay, all right, all right, not hard hitting.
Speaker 1:Not at all. I know what that would call me off guard. I wasn't expecting that, because it's so true and I'm, I'm guessing, noticing like I'm, I am some a person that shoots for the stars. I'm a big jammer, I'm a hard worker.
Speaker 2:I'm a big dreamer.
Speaker 1:I'm a hard worker, I'm a go for it, but I'm at a certain place. Right now I'm not Right, but then I'll get with somebody and I don't know if I'll give an offer, but I'll definitely tell the truth about where I'm at. Everything that I can provide, and then a lot of the arguments and stuff that I might get into is because of what you expected.
Speaker 2:Right, Because you're expecting, Because some, for some people I'm not going to say just women, it is mostly women but for some people expectations deafen you, Like you can't hear past what you he's telling you, what he can give you and what he can provide for you, but you still only hear your expectations.
Speaker 1:Because I was even thinking that, like just me smoking. I've heard so many women like, no, smoking isn't my thing, but then I'm not saying I'm anything special, but when it comes to me, you're willing to get over that, right, and I'm like no, it's fine that that's a deal breaker for you. Let it be a deal breaker, because then we're just going to be getting at it for no reason.
Speaker 2:Because in my situation, me and my husband have been having this conversation a lot lately but I felt a little bamboozled because it's a question for me in dating because I don't smoke, Do you smoke? And when you tell me no.
Speaker 2:Occasionally or when I'm out and then I'm with you. After I've already gained all these feelings for you and you smoking all day, every day, you lied to me. You didn't even give me the choice to decide whether I wanted to continue to talk to you or be with you because you lied and that I feel like I don't. I didn't even get the experience of what I turned down someone who smokes because he lied Got, you Got you.
Speaker 2:But I do feel like I get it when women are like, well, I guess it's not that big of a deal. I mean, for me it is. It is that big of a deal. I don't want a smoker, yeah, but I can see somebody being like, well, it ain't that big of a deal. Cause what my husband doesn't understand is that I can be around you smoking. I'm not about to kiss you, I'm not about to fuck you, I'm not about to do life with you.
Speaker 1:I'm not about to kiss you. I'm not about to fuck you.
Speaker 2:I'm not about to do life with you. I'm not about to do nothing with you after this. So you smoking for five, 10, 20 hours around me, not going to make a difference, right? I feel that you want to get in my guts after you smoke. No, sir, no, this is not happening.
Speaker 1:I don't know why you think? Because I've had women that don't mind smoking, but they're like you don't brush your TV when you kiss me. I'm like okay, that's fine.
Speaker 2:Like because we went to marriage counseling. It was a couple counselor but it wasn't really a marriage thing. Was there a difference? I mean kind of, because a couple's counselor can be for, just like us me and you Really, yeah, they can we're. A couple's counselor can be for, just like us Me and you Really, yeah, they can oh, just a pair. We're a couple of people, yeah, gotcha, gotcha, who are doing something together. So we need the counseling as a couple. But, gotcha, I forgot where I was going with that Do you have a couple of counselors?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, he was. He was Not that it matters, but he was gay and his partner smoked. Okay, and I think it do matter to me, but whatever, he didn't smoke, and so he would tell his partner you need to wear a glove when you smoke, you need to come in and wash your hands after you smoke.
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 2:Damn near take a shower before we do anything after you smoke, and that was explained to Alvin and he still kind of just like. I can see that you're a smoker and I know that there are women who would have been okay with that and it just doesn't seem and I'm flattered you want just me Right.
Speaker 1:But I don't want that You're taking that option away from.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel that, I feel that and I feel like some women take that option away from themselves when they decide, oh, it's not that big of a deal, but it is, if you brought it up at all. Yeah, if you asked about it or you are mentioning it. It matters. It is that big of a deal. Don't let your expectations fall because he looked good or he put it down good. Somebody else will too, right.
Speaker 1:Right, for sure. Okay, and those are all valid things, but I don't want to say where I'm at is the quality of a woman, because I feel like there's you mean, like where you live at?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I think it is. Oh, okay, I think it is. I mean, I, I 100% men and women. This is the worst place to be trying to get anything that anybody would ever expect. I'm sorry, grand Rapids, you are a great place to raise. This is where you come once you found your partner, once you've made a family, and it's time to raise. This is not the dating scene. Yeah, I feel that.
Speaker 1:And because of what I be seeing often. Once again, I do think that there's a great woman in that mix. It's just going to be harder to find, but the more and more just negatives that I see, I'm like I don't want to do this shit at all.
Speaker 2:What is it that women you're talking to? Is it legitimately just sex that they think they have to offer? Damn near, Damn near.
Speaker 1:Like everything that they have to offer would be things you were going to do for yourself, whether I'm there or not. Like I'm working, I got my own place. I got my own car.
Speaker 1:I'm like yeah, without me you would have that anyway, but we need to have those things, yeah, but I'm like my lifestyle, how I don't need those things because I'm always traveling or whatnot. They can't get used to me not having that or just. But even besides what I'm offering beyond that, it's like okay. So what do you mean? I don't know. It'll just be confusing to me when you think that that's all you have to do you look hard of thought because I'm trying to figure out like what?
Speaker 2:because I I'm not single, I don't date. I don't know what dating looks like today.
Speaker 1:I was no but I was saying, like the things that you were saying is all the things that I would love, but I have never seen, yeah, like those things aren't being offered. It's just like I said and that's not really catered towards me and that's why I'll even get back to are you interested in me or just being with someone?
Speaker 2:But that. But you know what? Again, tickety tockckety, it's your fault. Um, I don't know if we mentioned it here on the podcast, but I was telling you about this guy that was talking about. Apparently, a girl had put a like basically a care package together for her boyfriend and this guy stitched the video and said that that was basic, like that was low effort, that was a low effort gift, and to me that's the problem. You've got men like that who are appreciating what women are doing, and so women are like okay, well, well, what do I do?
Speaker 1:Because he's saying this is low effort, although, she was super excited to put that together for him Also, that man ain't in y'all relationship For sure for sure.
Speaker 2:But there are women who are looking at him, single women who are looking at him like, okay, I can't do that, even though that's all I can afford Talk to your man.
Speaker 1:And maybe it comes down to that. I feel like I'm just not being heard by these women, because I'll say I want one thing and you do the complete opposite.
Speaker 2:I would say it's definitely a conflicting emotion for people not just women for people to hear on TikTok or social media that what used to be considered an extravagant gesture be low effort. Because how was that low effort if they had a conversation about him needing underwear, t-shirts, shoes, candy, all the stuff that he wants, and she put that together and gave that to him? That's a lot of effort. How do you know? I didn't have to go to 10 different stores to get everything that it is that I know you like and would appreciate what if I had to leave the state to get one thing that you wanted, Like you don't know what, and that's a real thing. I have put together stuff or thought about doing stuff for somebody thing. I have put together stuff or thought about doing stuff for somebody and I actually gave up once because I can't find this one thing. That I would put this all together would make this great. You can't put someone's effort and maybe for you that's low effort. Maybe again, because those are not things that you would like and that also has to be considered.
Speaker 2:People need to start listening to what people are saying. Because he said I wouldn't, I wouldn't like Adida, I wouldn't like Nike and blah, blah, blah. Ok, you want Gucci and Chanel and all the stuff that don't nobody give a fuck about. Tell that to your girlfriend. I'm talking to you because I know you watching. Tell that to your girlfriend. I'm talking to you because I know you watching. Tell that to your girlfriend, and if she can afford those things and can do those things for you, she should and she will. Maybe, I don't know.
Speaker 1:You sound like a asshole right I don't know because she might not.
Speaker 2:I'm like a real asshole, like I wouldn't do shit for you. Yeah, and the thing is, the girl's boyfriend probably likes Gucci and all the name brands, but he know who he's dating, he knows who he's with who he's with. Yeah, yeah, I like all the name brands, but I also can appreciate an Adidas pair of socks. I can appreciate a Hanes t-shirt.
Speaker 1:I mean. But once again, I'm going to see past what it is and the effort. I'm going to see the effort in it for sure.
Speaker 2:It could have been literally all store brand stuff. Just the fact that she did it, heard that you needed these things and went and got it and you like, damn, this woman loves me yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, ladies, that's for y'all, because what I've been seeing out here is sad.
Speaker 2:I mean, I too have never been gifted well in my opinion, I've never been gifted well. Well, in my opinion, I've never been gifted well. When I knew for sure that Alvin was like a diehard Lions fan, I bought him tickets, got him a jacket, bought him shoes, got you ready for the game. Like you going to the game?
Speaker 1:ready. Right, you definitely going to walk in there. Not just the tickets.
Speaker 2:You going in there ready? Yeah, I just feel like I heard you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's important.
Speaker 2:Only this year did he buy me concert tickets. You know me for 13 years. He's a great man, love him.
Speaker 1:Hey, okay, those are definitely great ways to keep a man without sex.
Speaker 2:Yeah, show an interest conversation.
Speaker 1:You know, what really makes me mad is when they be bragging about their sex and then y'all have sex and then it just be okay.
Speaker 2:I'm like who's doing that? Because I've heard that's not the first time that I've heard that who's doing that. Women, stop, shut the fuck up, because why are you telling him that you are this good and you're not?
Speaker 1:Yeah, or you might actually be in your mind, and then he get it and be like but I feel like it's because you're not asking nobody Like, you're just assuming that you got it like that. I'm not asking nobody, but that's what I was going to say, but you're not bragging on it either.
Speaker 2:No, well, I don't know.
Speaker 1:No, I'm not, that's what I'm saying. They'll brag on it, but then they won't even ask you like okay, how was it so?
Speaker 1:you just you ask that, what you sometimes only if, if I'm been like insecure about because there's been certain sessions where I'm like I didn't know, like just listen. There's been certain sessions where like okay, like this one time this girl had we maybe had we only met in person once and the very first time that we met we got each other's number so we was only texting from there and we had always planned to chill, hang out. It never happened. But then one night she had just hit me up. She was like what you doing? I was like no, I'm just chilling. She was like, all right, I'm on my way over and so like we really didn't have like in-person chemistry like that. So I know I didn't ask her, but that would be a time where I'd be like so.
Speaker 2:You feel like you have to have a connection with whoever you sleep with.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that sucks, why For you? No, but I'm an in-person person, like the connection can happen that night.
Speaker 2:That sucks, so you can't do a one-night stand.
Speaker 1:Plenty of them, but, like I said, the connection has been Meaning a one-night stand.
Speaker 2:Plenty of them, but, like I said, the connection has been Meeting one-night stand and never talking again. Yeah, no, meeting them that night.
Speaker 1:I just said that I've met them the same day. It happens right then and there, and then we're asleep together.
Speaker 2:What kind of connection?
Speaker 1:do you need At least something that makes me feel like?
Speaker 2:You being attracted to them ain't enough. No, no, that really does suck for you.
Speaker 1:But personality means a lot. That's why you haven't had a whole face. Could be that's why, but your personality can show me a lot of even how you're going to be in bed, like because, if, I mean if- you ain't belligerently drunk, no, but. I'm saying like if you are gorgeous, but then we get together and you're just annoying.
Speaker 2:But why we talking, huh, but why we?
Speaker 1:talking. That's what I'm saying. I can't do that. Some people will be like she look good, I just want to smash. I'm like I can't do that.
Speaker 2:You can't just smash. No, that's what I mean. That sucks for you. What? Because that is why you've never had a whole phase. You too busy trying to get to know people.
Speaker 1:No, that's now, when I was younger, I was trying to, but it just didn't happen, because you're too busy trying to get to know who they are.
Speaker 2:Shut the fuck up. Why are we?
Speaker 1:talking. Why are we talking? Why are we talking?
Speaker 2:we only talking if this was so good that I might need it again. That is the only way that we are talking. I don't got shit to say to you. Shut the fuck up, why are you talking?
Speaker 1:but like, and I've had that, but we still have a connection, like we can get together in between and then like that ain't no one-night stand. No, you're saying like the only reason you want to keep somebody around is, if it was that good to just yeah it just happened like that. But then like, hey, what you doing? You trying to go grab something.
Speaker 2:You trying to go grab something?
Speaker 1:But that's what I'm saying, and then that could lead to.
Speaker 2:I'm taking applications. Now I can find a smoker. Hey, sir, trying to get in here, but see, and I also not. I don't think it's You're not a hoe, I know that To anyone.
Speaker 1:And you know that everybody be calling me it.
Speaker 2:I'm like To anyone who's ever called him a hoe take it back, it's not true.
Speaker 1:Not a hoe, it's not true. But, like I said, there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with that. But I just feel like, once again, that's how these women be getting those big heads, cause dudes will just be sleeping with you just because like, and you're not you could be beautiful, but that's it.
Speaker 2:I don't think nobody could get a big head off of just having sex. If you're getting a lot of men, I don't have a big head Because the thing is like not every dude I have a big butt.
Speaker 1:But I'm saying not every dude that approaches that beautiful woman is going to get it. She's going to be the one choosing who she wants to and see that needs to stop. That's going to make her fit.
Speaker 2:But that's only because. But you just said, that's okay, just go ahead and sleep with it. You can't just. Nah, men have made women feel like if their numbers is too high that that's a problem, because for real I personally don't give a flying.
Speaker 1:So if I was still single, I would still just be doing whatever I want to do you ain't no man going to make me feel like I was going to say I don't think we're going to be having that conversation?
Speaker 2:What do you mean?
Speaker 1:The numbers.
Speaker 2:Oh no, you don't have to it's just the fact that it's out there that women know that men feel that way. So in case it ever comes up, I need to be able to say my number as well. So it comes off like she got a big head because she turning down people or she's saying stuff to maybe turn you away, but flirtatiously.
Speaker 1:No, I'm saying when we talking, like I've got you and like we actually communicating, and I'm like just the things that you'll be saying and, once again, the things that you're offering besides.
Speaker 2:It really could just be her flirtatiously trying to turn you off.
Speaker 1:Okay, just tell me no then.
Speaker 2:But we can't. It's not safe to just say no.
Speaker 1:I mean, that is a problem also that men have made for women. Yeah, I think Because I would rather you just say no, I sincerely don't think that there.
Speaker 2:I mean there are. There are some women out there who just really think that they cat is the thing to have, but I think majority of women might just be like I don't feel safe telling you know I can flirtatiously turn you down.
Speaker 1:But it don't even be that.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Baby offering it.
Speaker 2:I mean, it's gotta seem like they want. We gotta. We gotta hold up the standard that we can give it to you. Okay, but more women need to be like me. Stop caring about what they think.
Speaker 1:I see what you're saying. Yeah, I would rather you just be like no, it's just in your head like all these options.
Speaker 2:If I say no, he might hit me. If I say yes, he might hit me. If I say yes, he'll stay around Like just dumb stuff.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:It is really just dumb stuff, I think. But of course, there are women, like I said, who think that they can't is everything to have, and that is really all that they have to offer. That they have to offer. I think the people that they hearing that from are men who just want to have sex with you, and they just not smart enough to realize that that was what that was Like. She thinks, oh, he wanted me, like he really wanted to be with me, but I turned him down. No, he just wanted to have sex with you and he got that. Yeah, it was what it was, and there's nothing wrong with that, though, but for women, for whatever reason we believe, that's a problem to think, oh, he just wanted to have sex with me. Why is that a problem? If that's all he wanted and that's all you wanted, what is the problem Right Now? If I was trying to date and you was going to offer more, you should have showed that. You should have presented that there was more.
Speaker 1:If that was the case and they didn't have much to offer.
Speaker 2:I just don't know what it is she wouldn't have to offer, though. I mean as a woman, we just are naturally nurturing, we want to. I don't mean every woman is. I mean maybe the women you are Some women. Don't tap into it, Okay.
Speaker 1:It could be that.
Speaker 2:But that just could be the phase of their life that they in.
Speaker 1:Someone would be proud to say that they don't know how to cook, like what, and I don't mind cooking.
Speaker 2:I mean, in today's age that's okay to not know how to cook how, Because that means you got the money to be able to eat out whenever you want to. I provide you with whatever you want to eat. I ain't got to cook it, honey, but I get it for you Like what you mean. I mean, if you like a home-cooked meal, then she's not for you, yep, you're right, you're right. That's just what that is. I'm realizing it. I'm realizing it Because I don't see anything wrong with a woman not knowing how to cook.
Speaker 1:I've gotten into like an argument or something.
Speaker 2:Also, you need to blame the school system. They took home ec out of schools.
Speaker 1:So, but I didn't learn how to cook in school. I did, I mean, but most of your cooking did not come from it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, our mom cooked a lot.
Speaker 1:But I was going to say like I've gotten into arguments before and they've been wrong, clearly wrong.
Speaker 2:And instead of just apologizing and like really making me understand, no matter who's wrong?
Speaker 1:you apologize.
Speaker 2:Nope, nope. That's where you're wrong in the relationship. Are you kidding me? No, I'm very serious. Women know that they're wrong.
Speaker 1:But listen, listen, we know we're wrong, nah.
Speaker 2:I need to because. But how much do you love me? You going to sit here and argue with me, or you just going to say, okay, babe, you right?
Speaker 1:No, even if I do that, you still don't come to me and just be like, listen, Like you're trying to give me head.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:Like you can, come to me, let me know why you're sorry.
Speaker 2:For what you know, why no I?
Speaker 1:know I started to understand when kids be like I'm sorry and their parents be like for what. That's important for you to understand what you're sorry for.
Speaker 2:Oh, hell, no, what this? Why is not trying to get out? Get out.
Speaker 1:But that's important to know. You got to understand what you're being sorry for For sure Now. After that, if you want to go ahead and Y'all going to talk about it, though you ain't hearing me, I mean that's unfortunate if you've been with women who I've noticed. But that's a trait that I've noticed in women accountability, and even women in my family, majority of women in my family.
Speaker 2:I don't think so. I think if you give a woman or a person a safe space to properly apologize, it will happen. To properly apologize, it will happen. But if you're so willing to argue, it, it's like it don't even matter if I want to tell you babe, I'm sorry you were right, Because most women will. If they care about their relationship, they will. If you show me that the argument wasn't worth, Maybe that's it what.
Speaker 1:I'm just listening, I'm saying maybe that could be it. I'm just choosing the wrong woman.
Speaker 2:I mean, yeah, I wouldn't say wrong, just not for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You're learning something. It's never a waste of time or a wrong decision if something doesn't work out Right. Right, which is what I'm learning. Okay, I do think I know a lot of men feel like it's not fair happy wife, happy, happy life. But that is I. I sincerely feel like that is a real thing. I agree if you can just be like okay, babe, I will come back and be like I'm sorry for starting early.
Speaker 1:Hey, hey, well, maybe one day, maybe one day, Maybe one day.
Speaker 2:Honestly, she ain't here, who knows? And people think your environment has nothing to do with how you function. Yes, it does. Yes, it does. I think it has something to do with how you function.
Speaker 1:Yes, it does you. It does. I think it has something to do with how you function.
Speaker 2:Yes, it does. You're not going to find her here, okay.
Speaker 1:Well, that was the last one. Ah, all right, ladies, Y'all heard it. So if you want to keep your man, there's a couple of ways.
Speaker 1:I'm not available so stay out of my DMs. I am so hop in on the end you can come. Oh, I was going to ask you because on my birthday night, me and my boy Jeremy we was talking about our boy Jalen and we used to have some wild times together, like wild, wild, wild, wild, wild times, and Jalen just had his first kids Not his first kids, yeah, but we was just sitting there making dad jokes one night. I was like he probably got the new balance. He was like he does Not the new balance.
Speaker 2:Man style goes out the window when you've got kids.
Speaker 1:But that's what I was going to say. I was going to ask how much do kids change?
Speaker 2:you Is this a topic.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because much do kids change you? Is this a topic? Yeah, because this is more hard. I wouldn't know if, like you, think so. Yeah, oh man For sure.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm single, so that was hard hitting for me.
Speaker 1:You got kids, so that's hard hitting for you. But, like Jalen, the way I met him is I got a job at the same restaurant as him, but at the job you could wear hats and so me and Jalen both got beards. But when I started working there it was never no shifts with him and people would always be like, hey, jalen, what's up? And I'd be like I'm Gene.
Speaker 1:That used to happen to me For like two weeks until I finally saw him. He came in with a hat on light-skinned dude with a beard. I was like I get it now. I did not get it, but ever since then we've been cool as hell. Like I said, we had some wild times.
Speaker 2:White people. That is racist.
Speaker 1:A little bit, but I didn't take no for an answer. I'm like I get it Y'all, don't? Y'all all really look alike, and especially out there.
Speaker 2:It wasn't I own you, especially out there, oh my gosh yeah, this was at Denny's on 28th Street, and me and this girl look nothing alike. She's lighter than me, she's a little bigger than me. She was pregnant. Where are y'all getting this from?
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's racist, very racist, Because we don't look nothing alike you had the baby.
Speaker 2:I mean, oh yeah, and dropped a thousand. She wasn't that big, oh you wild.
Speaker 1:But even if you see us next to each other, you'd be like I get it, but I don't get it Not at all, like y'all don't look nothing alike light skin with beards and so. But he used to have an endless wardrobe and so now, even here in the New Balance, he's got the whole house. He's got the ride-along more. He's in full dad mode now and I was just wondering how much do kids change you? Because if it's that much, oh lord, I'm still a hoe. Oh, if it's that much, oh Lord.
Speaker 2:I'm still a hoe. First, I want to say I think it's temporary. I think whatever change that your kids bring to you is temporary, because I am definitely getting back to where I was before I had my first son, okay. So if anybody's ever feared like having kids because they think it's just going to change their entire life, I think it's temporary. That's just me, okay. But the boys did ask me the other day or Josiah did the question guy, yeah, do you think we party a lot Like the boys? No, and that's what I thought he meant too. I was like you mean our family, and he was like, yeah, and I was like I mean I guess, yeah, I mean compared to what I grew up with, for sure, yes, we party a lot.
Speaker 1:And he was like because people are always I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 2:I mean we got a ton of videos, yeah, yeah, but that's why I feel like my house was always jumping. But that's why my answer was like I guess, yeah, I mean, they know that their cousins don't do what we do.
Speaker 1:Got you.
Speaker 2:So for him, yeah, it feels like damn, we party a lot, got Got you. So for him, yeah, it feels like damn, we party a lot. Like my parents is always partying, like I feel like my kids are experiencing what my mom experienced from grandma Because, you know, back in the day they would have smoke parties and stuff.
Speaker 1:Like people smoking in houses.
Speaker 2:Like I feel like that's what she experienced and that's what my kids are experiencing Got you, got you, got you which is what I wanted. I wanted my kids to see that life is not over just because you have kids, because they might end up making not that kids are a mistake, but they might end up making that mistake of having kids too early or having kids and didn't want it Before they're yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean you're not ready because you're never going to be. Yeah, you're never going to be ready, yeah, but the changes that I've experienced with them haven't been that big, like I've never let anything interfere with my life to the maximum, yeah so, but that's just me. But that's just me. But with my kids, I feel like, because we homeschool, I want them to experience what real life is like. Real life is not getting up and going to a job. Real life is not getting up and going to school. Real life is living and enjoying the life that you have, understanding that God put you on this earth to find your purpose, right, and although, yeah, partying is not going to help you find your purpose, but you never know.
Speaker 1:What if you're supposed to right?
Speaker 2:what if you're supposed to be a party promoter? What if you're supposed to be? I don't know, but you just. My kids are going to understand and know, I hope.
Speaker 1:But I even learned like before I didn't understand it, but growing up I just always liked being up at night, yeah, but now I'm like having night shoots or you got to be there till four in the morning, like it's starting to make more sense that your clock doesn't have to be on.
Speaker 2:Wake up at nine because my kids do acting stuff. They know what it's like to be on set.
Speaker 1:They know what it's like to have to travel, but even traveling through night and all like if you up, you up.
Speaker 2:Like to them. This is normal and that's what I want for them. Even if acting is not where they end up, Even if music or entertainment period is not where they end up, I want them to know you and that job can have you traveling. That job can have you up out all night. That job can have you living a schedule that your friends will never be on. I want them to understand that. So, like when we have parties and stuff at our house, I'm not telling them y'all got to go to bed. No, just stay out of our way, Right right, Be up all night, Do what you want to do. Live your life, Like, especially since we homeschooled live your life. I travel with them.
Speaker 1:That is one thing I'm kind of jealous of your family growing up and that we didn't have. Yeah. And I traveled a lot, but the way that y'all traveled, y'all were in the museums, y'all really like I was traveling, doing the same thing every place that I went. But yeah, I'm a little jealous Because.
Speaker 2:I want them to understand that they don't need to be sitting in a classroom for eight hours to learn something that they can learn right here, we at this museum. You can learn this right here. We at this zoo can learn this right here. I just when I was on my hike tuesday, I seen this bird and I was like man.
Speaker 1:I kind of want to take a picture of it and figure out what kind of yeah and then my brain was like I'll just ask josiah josiah knows yeah I know he knows but even that you're giving them that space to just find whatever it is that you like, because Because I'm seeing Alvin just talking to me about flipping Right, I'm like yo, you could be a stuntman, you could be into gymnastics Like whatever In the Olympics for real, for gymnastics like it's nice to see.
Speaker 2:It's crazy how many of the most successful people did not finish school.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:But I'm still trying to run this narrative that education is most important.
Speaker 1:You weren't locked into that box of what you think it's supposed to be. You're given once again that space that think, imagine, do whatever you want to do Sometimes, Go ahead In 2024, literally whatever you want to do.
Speaker 2:Sometimes go ahead in 2024, literally whatever you want to do. You can be big at it. Yeah, sometimes I gotta remember why I'm doing what I do with them on our way here today. Uh, josiah was in the back fighting himself. No one's back there with him, he just he just going to town. And I was like Josiah.
Speaker 1:No, just the sound was there.
Speaker 2:And I was like Josiah, god, like all that noise and I quickly felt bad about it because that could be the one time that he's like damn, I just should stop.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And now.
Speaker 1:Luckily your kids is a little bit hard headed. He's going to do it again. He's going to do it again. But no that is good that you caught yourself like that yeah, for sure, and I'm just like that's changed a little bit, because I remember you would tell anybody to shut up in the quickness, in the quickness that's never gonna change.
Speaker 2:Selena and Darnell sitting in the living room you shut up. You shut up. No, you shut up.
Speaker 1:Y'all both shut up that's what I'm saying, so that's changed you.
Speaker 2:That's definitely changed. You Never gonna change. Shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1:But you think whatever, like the ornery overbearing parent, like whatever it changes you like in a good way, for sure, like, but you're more motherly. You think that's temporary.
Speaker 2:I don't think I'm motherly. I don't think I'm motherly, I'm sayingly I don't think I'm motherly.
Speaker 1:I'm saying like when they was first born. That's what you're saying, like it's only temporary. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:For sure, because when I was pregnant with William, I was ready, like I was ready, to be waking up in the morning or in the middle of the night. I was like and I tell people all the time I don't get why that is the threat to young girls. You're going to start losing sleep, you're going to be up in the middle. I mean, I get it as a teenager.
Speaker 1:It might be hard to deal with, no, but it was like what you're saying. A lot of other people are on that cloud.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Like I have to wake up.
Speaker 2:That was not a problem for me, though, like I was excited to be waking up in the middle of the night with my baby. I was but and I don't feel like I was meant to be a mom. Even to this day, I don't feel like I was meant to be a mom, but it's just in me to know. Whatever is going on in my life, I got to deal with it.
Speaker 2:Right, I think that is the lesson that needs to be taught or given to young girls instead of you ain't going to sleep for the next 18 years. That's not true. That don't even sound realistic. So for 18 years, this motherfucker going to be bothering me?
Speaker 1:I feel like a career could take more sleep away from you than a child can.
Speaker 2:And that is literally like the first year. If that's going to be your problem, right right, right yeah other than that, and I'm, I think. I think one mom had a hard time sleeping with her child and just started spreading this rumor. Like you've gotta stop, lady, that is not fact.
Speaker 1:She just woke up mad one day hey listen, don't get pregnant because you ain't't going to never sleep again.
Speaker 2:Not true, not true. And I'm not promoting going out and getting pregnant, but that is not true. Like I don't know nobody in real life who complained about they sleep after having kids. Like that's just not my reality. Nobody. I don't know anybody in real life who has ever been like man. I lost so much sleep when I like that's never been the complaint, it's always been. They just cry for no reason. I can never figure out why that's more of a realistic complaint Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, losing sleep Like that's not a realistic, that's just not realistic in my reality. I've never talked to a woman who has had a newborn and was like man, I just miss sleep. No, you don't. No, you don't.
Speaker 1:That's just not real okay, I can say that I've heard him say like I'm tired.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but not I miss sleep. You're getting sleep. Yeah, I get that. I get that, because how much were you sleeping when you were partying all the time to get to this position, like you're not even making sense with that?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you was up all night before.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, I feel it, because you're not sleeping when you fucking to get pregnant, Like you're not making any sense, yeah that's right.
Speaker 2:Something's not adding up. Now I get it. If you've got a baby who's like colic and just won't stop crying at all, and as a new mom, you don't know how to handle that. But it's not the sleep that's driving you crazy, it's the fact that you can't handle this situation. You just don't, and that's normal. You're new at this. This is a new job to you. You don't know how to make a baby stop crying if you don't know what's wrong. Right, that is more realistic than I miss sleep. I don't know where that narrative came from and I really wish it would go away.
Speaker 1:But it is making it seem like you just hate your kids, like, like, like you just hate your kids, like, like you're like these little bastards taking away all my sleep.
Speaker 2:Yeah, man, I felt it one time william wouldn't stop crying in his crib, so I put him in the bed with me. That's literally all he wanted. He just wanted to be in the bed with me and so, um, but I would have him in the bed with me a lot. So I think that was the problem. I just was like I want him in the bed with me a lot. So I think that was the problem. I just was like I want him in the bed tonight, or in his bed tonight, and he wouldn't stop crying until I put him in my bed. Why I wake up and he in between my bed and the wall Never made a sound, and just quiet. You could have stayed in your crib, for this Never made a sound. I wake up like I know somebody's supposed to be here. I know something is supposed to be here when.
Speaker 1:I went to sleep something was in the table.
Speaker 2:Something was next to me. And I'm not really a wild sleeper. So I didn't think I crushed him or nothing, I'm just like where he go.
Speaker 1:He rolled over my man was just in between the wall and the bed. Like and sleep, just sleep oh, that's funny, that is funny I think, yeah, it's definitely temporary okay on a scale the changes that you get on a scale of one to ten, from the time you find out you're pregnant to the time you had a kid. How much do you think you changed?
Speaker 2:I didn't. Really I don't think I did, I think.
Speaker 1:No, I mean you said, you did a little bit, you a mom so yeah, I just became more. But just on the scale of 1 to 10, like it could have been a little bit like a 3 like I just became more obsessed with him, gotcha.
Speaker 2:so I'd like the amount of sex that I was wanting, the amount of hanging out that I was doing. None of that really changed. It was just I'm okay, I'm doing all that of that really changed. It was just okay, I'm doing all that, but don't be taking up my time to go buy my babies and stuff. Don't be taking up my time to go to my doctor's appointment. I just became obsessed with him and I think most people get scared and that's what the change be, but I don't get getting scared.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't get being scared, and that's what the change be. But I don't get getting scared, yeah, I don't get being scared.
Speaker 2:You did this.
Speaker 1:That woman. She spread them rumors that now we're here.
Speaker 2:I'm going to need you to go all the way to hell, because that don't even make sense. But my thing is, you made this decision, so how are you scared? I mean some people don't, don't. I mean there's some parents too and that needs to stop parents that are like I'm not gonna help you, that's fine.
Speaker 2:you ain't got to help, like I 100 support that if you feel like it's not your responsibility because you've been laid out with them but telling them, like you going to struggle and it's going to be hard, and you ain't going to never sleep again and you just like. For what? For what, lady? Why are you doing that?
Speaker 1:That's not helping them at all.
Speaker 2:Like what?
Speaker 1:Why that sounds more like jealousy than I do feel like that's in a lot of parents too, like when they had a kid, and then I guess that they do change, like they stopped going after what they wanted to go after or forget who they were as a person, I think that's the biggest change that people would have. Okay.
Speaker 2:I don't think it's necessarily a change of like who you are as a person. I think it's more of like the dreams that you might've had that you just choose to neglect Because you say he went into full dad mode. But that's like the American dream. Yeah, that's nobody's real dream. Nobody really wants a white picket fence and to just be at home taking care of their family, and I guess that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:He did change a lot, that's just society's idea of what you're supposed to do and I think a lot of people get caught up in that. Like I got to get a nine to five. Now I can't have.
Speaker 1:Well, he was always like a hard worker, like I think he's a gem of.
Speaker 2:No, you can be a hard worker, but I'm saying like his dream could have been to own a gym, but now you feel like you can't do that because you got kids. Now I gotta get a nine to five in a in a job that I could care less about. Why? Why, if whatever you were doing was bringing in money, why did you need to change that? Yeah, it may have not brought in the amount of money that you feel, because it is just a feeling that you feel is necessary for having kids, but there is no amount of money that's necessary for having kids. Kim Kardashian don't got enough money that's necessary to have kids.
Speaker 2:Trust me when I say that there is no amount of money that is necessary to have kids, because she has more money that is needed to have kids. Her child thinks she can be on Broadway. I, like you, got too much money, and that's not to say that North is not talented, but this girl thinks she can be on Broadway.
Speaker 2:In Lion King Because her parents are Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. I didn't see it yet, but the average Joe walking down the street don't need that much. It's dumb to make him believe that he needs that much money to have a Right to have a kid. No, you need enough money to be able to live the life you want to live with a child.
Speaker 1:I feel that, I feel that so. So then it really is on a personal thing like how much it changes somebody?
Speaker 2:For sure I don't think I changed that much.
Speaker 1:I don't feel like I'm going to change too much, you think?
Speaker 2:I changed. Yeah, I think I'm more organized. I try to be more organized.
Speaker 1:But I mean not you personally, but just how you, I guess, personally, how you carry yourself Like you're a mom now, like you always remember that you got kids.
Speaker 2:I do and I hate that. I don't like that. I don't like that I be like man.
Speaker 1:I'm a mom but no, I've got like that's always a thought or a addition to any situation, or what we're trying to plan, like that's always there.
Speaker 2:Now, that's what I've noticed but if I like, if me and Alvin didn't work out and I was single, like tomorrow, because I mean in the future, me and Alvin didn't work out and I was single, mm-hmm, like tomorrow, mm-hmm Because I mean in the future I needed to make it clear that I meant in the future. Yeah, this mom shit will go out the window. You think so, I know so. You can't put me in the streets and think that I'm about to act like a mom. This mom shit, especially with my kids. They at a big age now. No, I don't think I've changed, I think I'm just suppressing.
Speaker 1:For real.
Speaker 2:I think I'm just suppressing. I don't think I've changed. Okay, all right, that makes sense. You think you can put this in the streets and walk around talking about how I'm a mom.
Speaker 1:I can't Hell no, but I feel like I'm going to be a big ass, like I'm a big kid anyway, but I'm going to be an even bigger kid with a kid and I don't think it's going to stop me from at least pursue, because I don't do shit crazy for no more, but I pursue what I want. It'll stop me from doing that. Especially, like you said, I would like to show you that, like, yep, you can come with me for a couple months If you can't, if me and the mom are married.
Speaker 2:Right, pink is a big reason why I'm like hard on her Artist. Yeah, she takes her daughter on tour with her all the time. Uh-huh, she's not. I don't think she homeschooled. I don't think her kids are homeschooled. She just pulled them out of school. I can teach them better than you can anyway.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And I, because there's a documentary of her somewhere that I watched and I'm just like that's amazing Because really, what is she missing out on? She's getting social interaction, even if it's just from adults. To me, social interaction with adults is more effective than with kids, because when you've got kids, especially when you, because you can't control how other kids are being raised, right. So when your kids are around other kids who are acting ignorant or doing things that you would never want your kids to do, there's nothing you can do about that, because you want them to have social interaction, right.
Speaker 1:Right, but like, even when I was in America's Got Talent, when we were in Vegas, they had tutors and stuff like that. But I would much rather my kids have something like that. Yeah, even if you are going to be in the schooling system.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You're still shown that you can do what you love to do and still get taught Right. It's ways that you can accomplish all of that.
Speaker 2:And I feel like they've gotten laxed on that, though, because when William was on set, they just tell him that, like they just told me, I need to bring something for him to do like worksheets or something for him to do. So there's no one actually there making sure that the kids are getting a lesson, yeah, which I get it because- the kids can be different ages and stuff and it would be hard. But at the same time, why y'all not providing all different grade levels?
Speaker 2:to split them up to split them up or something. I think it depends on budget too.
Speaker 1:I know America's got talent. They got bread. They literally flew people out here to tell them no, and they'll fly back home. I was like are you kidding me?
Speaker 2:It's a no go home.
Speaker 1:Before they even checked in their hotel rooms.
Speaker 2:Here's your $6,000 first class flight back to where you came from.
Speaker 1:It was the wildest thing.
Speaker 2:I've ever seen man. Plane tickets are so expensive.
Speaker 1:No, but okay, Once again, just personally. It changes people how. It changes people.
Speaker 2:One number one. It's definitely temporary, so if you're scared that you are going to be, just Forget who you are. Yeah, it's temporary because me and my kids, I'm for sure, letting them know I am their parent.
Speaker 1:but I hope so.
Speaker 2:But them is my friends.
Speaker 1:OK, I got you. Like, yeah, like the way Ashley is, I love that.
Speaker 2:I love seeing that, yeah for sure, Because Denise was by no means allowed to just get a sleeve half, sleeve the other.
Speaker 1:When I did that, and she still covered that in my eye Right.
Speaker 2:And it was very respectful, and I get that some people feel like they need to put their foot down in order to show authority For what? That's how you get kids out here doing dumb shit.
Speaker 1:You'd rather them talk to you about what?
Speaker 2:they're doing Like shut up. I feel that you don't even know what you talking about. This is your first time parenting. Shut up.
Speaker 1:I mean, but it could be the panic factor, because it's your first time Panic factor.
Speaker 2:Oh, I thought you said panty factor, what's that? Tell me about that Pantyfactory. I want to know what that is. How do you get involved with that? That fly just went in there.
Speaker 1:He got you. Damn, I should have chugged. You should have, you should have, you should think about it. You'll be all right, is that all? But no, okay, that makes sense, that makes sense. I can still wait on having kids. For sure I don't rush.
Speaker 2:I don't rush, no one. I definitely would not even suggest having kids at all not that I don't you sound like that woman.
Speaker 1:Now, not that I don't love my kids, but I don't have no kids. They gonna take your whole life away, they not?
Speaker 2:but don't do it if you don't need to and if you not like oh my god, I really wanna be a parent, like if that's not your dream, don't fucking do it. You knew what was coming you fucking knew that video will never not be hilarious. You knew what was coming.
Speaker 1:You fucking knew that video will never not be funny, oh, hilarious. I'm so happy I was able to witness that. Okay, well, now we got the hard-hitting stuff out of the way, because that first one was nothing, I feel it, to me it was. And now the second one was.
Speaker 2:The second one stumped me.
Speaker 1:But that's because you a mom and got kids. The first one was more important to me because I'm single.
Speaker 2:I want to know. I don't want them to think I don't love them. I love y'all Of course they know that they know that, man, I wish you were, that you do too much for them. I mean Jesus, keep my kids around.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I've been seeing this trend. I don't mind seeing it at all. It be Big booty hoes, it ain't that. I wish it was that. Natural ones, not no BBLs man, but sheer and see-through tops for women without bras on, and it's like the free, the nipple movement and whatnot. And I'm all the way here for it. I'll be seeing some people. They'll be like you shouldn't be able to put this on social media. You shouldn't be able to post this, things like that.
Speaker 2:But why, if you won't hear a shirt?
Speaker 1:with it. I'm like it's a shirt. I'm like it's a shirt. She gotta know, but me I'm all for it.
Speaker 2:I don't see nothing wrong with it. No-transcript go back to Princeton, sir.
Speaker 1:But people were like kids, be on here. I'm like kids. I think we all breastfed.
Speaker 2:Right, and I've never understood that either. Breastfeeding in public oh, you can eat in public, but he can't. This baby gotta go in private and eat how prejudiced of you.
Speaker 1:Like what the fuck.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't have a problem with it If it's tasteful especially if it's tasteful, oh so yeah he. I don't know if he went to Princeton.
Speaker 1:He tried to make it sound like he did.
Speaker 2:Right, and shit like that pisses me off. So he was basically like complaining about it, like I would never let my girlfriend Okay, she ain't your girlfriend, nobody even asked you your opinion. She posted what she was wearing at Coachella and it was a crocheted top.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:He didn't even know that. So you didn't even do your research. You got on here talking about macrame. Shut the fuck, shut up. Shut up, because what is that? Who is out here wearing macrame? Shut the shut up. Shut up, because what is that? Who?
Speaker 2:is out here wearing macrame it's a form of knitting, like. It's like crocheting and knitting and stuff. But shut up talking about she wearing a. He said something like a tablecloth. Okay, okay, if she want to. The the thing is she did what she was supposed to do. She got your attention. She pissed you off. Like what does it matter? Like, my thing is her and her friends felt it was okay for her to go out and that you shouldn't have nothing to say about it. But even if she got a boyfriend, he shouldn't have nothing to say about it.
Speaker 1:But even if you got a boyfriend he didn't have nothing to say about it.
Speaker 2:Why do you? I don't think she had a boyfriend, but even if she did, right, yeah. My thing is again your next video was probably you at the gym with no shirt on, and yet you felt that was appropriate. And yeah, it's a, yet it's a. It's a problem that she's actually wearing a shirt, but I feel like I don't see her nipple.
Speaker 1:Did this guy seem fit? A little bit okay, because I was gonna say that's actually I don't hear it a lot from more guys on the fit side.
Speaker 2:I'll be hearing it, I mean I don't know, I didn't go on this page, but I'm just saying okay, the next video could have been you somewhere with the shirt off, right, right, and yet you feel like that's okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, like you can do that, and that's what I was saying, like really just thinking about it. I think I told you about that Alicia Keys video with her son and he was like mom, you're going to wear that on stage. She was like, yeah, just boobs, like just having a normal conversation with a kid but, I'm like looking back. That's really all they are is, for a child's sake, to feed them when they get here my thing I mean beyond that.
Speaker 1:They might be pleasurable to me, but they're not made for my pleasure. But and the fact that people are taking that main reason as it and sexualizing them to a point to where you're making these women feel like they're actually doing something wrong when they're not.
Speaker 2:I don't know if I've ever said it on the podcast, but I don't cover myself up around my kids because one our bodies are not meant for sex. That's not like. It's not like we're, especially our boobs. They are to feed another human being, just like cows and any other animal.
Speaker 2:It's to feed their other, Right like it's okay for they udders to just be hanging out and horses dicks to be out, but yet Now that's all the same as if it was normalized for women to walk around with no pants, Because, you know, women are just flat down there Right Versus a man got something hanging out which would be basically the swap. Y'all are flat up here and we got something hanging out which would be basically the swap. Y'all are flat up here and we got something hanging out.
Speaker 2:I got you. I got you, you wouldn't. You would feel like it should be appropriate for you to walk around with no pants.
Speaker 1:You're saying if that was the case.
Speaker 2:Right, if that was the case, so why is it not the same? I get that it would just appear weird for a woman to walk around with no shirt and no bra on it would? I'm not doing that One. My boobs is sagging down to the floor. I don't find it weird at all it just would feel weird to me.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, To me it would just be weird, but that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I'm really here for the movie, but if it was a thing I'm like, yeah for sure, I've always heard women like they get, so like it's a great feeling when they get home and take off their bra Like they're always uncomfortable.
Speaker 1:And that's why I'm here, like, if it's been this way for so long, get rid of them.
Speaker 2:But a man made the bra, a man made heels, the two most uncomfortable things that a woman can wear.
Speaker 1:A man made and now that you feel like if they don't wear those things, that they're not a lady.
Speaker 2:Like you? You this idea that you can do whatever you want to do, and it's just not ladylike if a woman does the same thing. Fuck you, like I'm so tired. How do you feel about like?
Speaker 1:throwing bikinis at public pools and stuff.
Speaker 2:It's fine to me. I've seen it and initially I think Audrina from the Hills was the first time that I had actually seen it in public and I was like why is she doing that? But she ain't had no butt, so that was really where my why is she doing that? Came from. But as I seen black women doing it and women with more of a cheek back there, ba-dunk-a-dunk, it looks good. Right, covering it up, like putting on a Pamela Anderson high-waisted bikini bottom. Yeah, it looks weird Like you've got so much of the cheek covered that it, yeah, looks weird like you've got so much of the cheek covered that it just looks weird.
Speaker 1:My argument is we all got them right, there are nude beaches. Once again, I'm okay with the human body, both genders, right. I'm it's, it's a natural thing and that's what I want.
Speaker 2:My kids to understand, because you, your body is not your penis is not just to be walking around here sticking it in people Like that's not what your body is made for. You are just. This is just who you are. This is just what you look like, right, Right, if you want to walk around with no clothes and I think Brayden and Josiah are the only ones who are still like whatever I'm walking from the shower. I need to find a towel and I'm going to be naked until I find one. Right, right, william is more of okay. I don't want my mom seeing me no more, and that's fine, it is what it is, but I'm not going to cover myself up. He keeps himself away from me Like if he knows I'm in the shower.
Speaker 1:He just keeps himself in his room until he knows. But you know that the body isn't sexualized.
Speaker 2:Right, like I'm Boy, you were on my boobs for months, so that's my thing.
Speaker 1:We all use them, so.
Speaker 2:I just don't want my kids to walk around looking at women like, damn, she's sexy because she got big boobs, or she's sexy because she got a big butt. Is she sexy? Because she looks good to you, like she's got a pretty face. You can think she's got a nice figure. That's fine. You can point that out, but don't let that be the main reason for your attraction to a woman, because that's going to change. You are going to fall in love with her. What if they're going through a whole phase?
Speaker 2:Do you bro, okay, I want my kids to go, so the rules change. No, do you boo? Okay, I want my kids to go, so the rules change.
Speaker 1:No, because you were telling me that I can't have a connection with somebody.
Speaker 2:I still don't want you to just be like thinking her body is just for that. I mean, you can have a whole phase, still know in the back of your mind this is not what a woman's body is for Got you, but today, it is Today, but for the is. Got you Today, but for this moment, today, that's what we're doing. I definitely want my kids to go through a whole phase.
Speaker 1:That'll be a topic for another day.
Speaker 2:It's got to be, because I really want to talk about that.
Speaker 1:Okay, for sure All right, but yeah, that wasn't as hard-hitting. But for me women free the nipple. For sure I'm all here for that movement.
Speaker 2:I mean, and even if you're not comfortable with freeing it, put a pasty on, you ain't got to wear a bra. Yeah, fuck man.
Speaker 1:I don't agree with that. But Fuck man, why you always got to come at us like this.
Speaker 2:Because y'all wild.
Speaker 1:Heels.
Speaker 2:Don't make no sense Heels, heels.
Speaker 1:A bra, but you wearing them. Bras used to be metal, but you wearing them. What the hell we doing? But you wearing them. I got to. Hey you make the girls look good.
Speaker 2:Y'all was on to something. No comment. No women, not really Y no women not really Y'all wasn't on to nothing.
Speaker 1:A woman came in and fixed what the mistake was. I will say like since the bra has evolved. The bra has evolved a lot, but women got their hands on it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1:But, once again, I'm all here for this, do you?
Speaker 2:remember that Victoria's Secret secret used to be that Victoria was Victor Cat's out the bag now, yeah for sure.
Speaker 1:Oh man, come on, vic, what you doing. It's crazy that men got so rich off of that shit.
Speaker 2:Men get rich off of women, so much.
Speaker 1:That's fucking nuts to me.
Speaker 2:I will say that men get rich off of white women. That is why you barbers no, they take the vulnerability of what white women used to go through and create things, because black women wasn't walking around trying to figure out how to lift our boobs and look better. We was already looking better.
Speaker 1:It was y'all out there talking about you ever see in pictures women in Africa when they're carrying things on their head, but they have no top and no skirts. It's more impressive to me that you carry this shit on your head.
Speaker 2:I don't give a fuck about your boobs being out Bitch. How did you get the neck strength for this big-ass basket to be on?
Speaker 1:your head and carry it two miles. Let's talk about that. Yeah, for sure, I guess. To me I give the strength of men and women in different areas. Like men are strong in their ways, women are strong in their ways too. Like, let them shine. Like, don't be ashamed of like that you're a woman. Don't let nobody make you feel ashamed of being.
Speaker 2:I definitely think that we should have kept men in a spotlight and women in a spotlight for the things that we could and couldn't do.
Speaker 2:But, again, it is because of white women, and I hate to say that, but it is what it is. When you've got a black woman in the circus because of her butt being so big, and then you've got women out here, or women and men creating these dresses to make it appear that a woman has as big of a butt as a black woman, yeah, they're going to capitalize either way, this could have been separated and kept separated if you would have just accepted what you looked like, right, and that's where I think the body positive movement comes from.
Speaker 2:I think a white woman woke up and was like I need to love me for what I am. I'm not black, I'm not. I don't have what she got. I got to love what I got and that's okay.
Speaker 1:I don't know where it started. I think that's where it started. That makes sense.
Speaker 2:I. I don't know where it started, but I think that's where it started. I believe that's where it started.
Speaker 1:I don't think it came from an overweight person. You were born with it, flawless you, and you were born with it for that reason. For I mean for a reason.
Speaker 2:Yeah for sure. Like I mean, don't say it's how short there are. I don't think white women are not beautiful. I've never thought that. I've never even looking back. Have I ever looked at like old ancient Roman pictures of naked women and been like damn, they just don't got it? It's never been that. So I'm not sure where their lack of confidence came in. I mean, men, it's definitely gotta be the men going after what they thought they were going to get better sex from. And I'm going to tell y'all something, the entire world something yes, once you go black, you can't go back. Yeah, but everybody's sex is not good. I just think white men were tired of experiencing the same old thing. And unfortunately, once you go black, you don't.
Speaker 2:It ain't true, it's true, it's true.
Speaker 1:It's true. How dare true, it's true, I dare you. I mean I might, I might, I might, because it's been a while I might dabble, but For sure. Because I could definitely. I really feel in my heart that I'm going to end up with melanin based woman.
Speaker 2:For sure I definitely. If again, if me and Alvin tomorrow were like okay, this is it. You said George was Asian. Yeah, this is going to be my next husband. Oh, okay, but for sure, Asian is going to be my next husband. Okay, Asian men, give me the turn on. And I don't know why, Like I don't, I've never even talked to an Asian man, and I mean legitimately never even spoken to an Asian man. Like I don't know any Asian men. But I could go, I could mess around with a white dude before I got married again.
Speaker 1:For sure I could dabble. I could dabble Like I could rock his world.
Speaker 2:For sure I could dabble. I could dabble Like I could rock his world. Give him what he been missing. Well, let him know what's on the other side of the river.
Speaker 1:You have been watching and listening to.
Speaker 2:This Bitch Be Crazy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we might have to change. That's going to be the name of the podcast. Now, this bitch be crazy Because that is sex, but I love doing this with you. Another great one. This your boy, genius.
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Speaker 1:But when I shake it she don't mind. But when I shake, it, she don't mind.
Speaker 2:But when I shake it, she don't mind. You know what?
Speaker 1:I'm going to cook up on that right now, because that's a hit, because when I shake it, she don't mind. And we got another one and another one.
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